As soon as we talk about lust, most of us think directly about sex and forget that lust comes in many different varieties. It’s also interesting to think about what pleasure and libido mean to each of us. It is not uncommon for couples to disagree on what each means when talking about lust and libido. What does it actually mean to have a high libido and what is pleasurable for me or my partner? All good questions for which it is worthwhile to simply pull up stops for yourself, or to talk about it over a glass of wine, or a beer with your better half. 

The libido can be described as a bit of sexual background noise. The breeding ground on which lust can thrive. If our erotic antennas are not switched to reception, the various stimuli that are sent to us are not perceived. Thus, there is no erotic adventure and it remains quiet in the bedroom. Libido can also be understood as the readiness for sexuality. The higher the libido, the stronger the urge for sex and physicality.

Lust is a little more concrete. If libido is compared as hunger, lust is the specific offering of a menu.

The sensation of pleasure is again a completely different subject. Everyone feels different stimuli differently and even the same person does not feel pleasure the same way every day. Unfortunately, it can be observed that we often equate pleasure sensation with sexual or genital pleasure. Physical pleasure is often completely forgotten or neglected. In the lower section we talk about the different types of pleasure and thus have the opportunity to expand our spectrum, our range.

An important aspect of pleasure is that it is not a constant quantity. It can resonate quietly in the background on certain days. On other days it is a big wave that carries us along. Being able to feel the different strengths of pleasure is a great tool to enjoy yourself and your partner more completely. Not to judge is the true art. Great pleasure is not the best pleasure and small pleasure sensation does not have to be less pleasure. It is rather an interplay of emotions and sensations. Sometimes small and cozy, sometimes fulminant and fiery.

In the meantime, we know that pleasure is fundamental to our erections. In other words, it is the first building block in the complex mechanism of erections. If the desire is absent, the erection will also be absent. Unfortunately, desire cannot be forced. This is where couples in long-term relationships have particularly big problems. How do you keep lust alive in a relationship? We will look at this topic in another video. However, it is important to understand that lust does not disappear completely depending on the situation, but perhaps the lust for a specific aspect. Calling these aspects by name often takes courage and honesty. What do I not feel like doing? What are my desires and needs?